I'm going to offer the perspective from someone who has actually been sexually assaulted.
The first assault happened when I was 13. ... his name was Gary, He was 6 inches, 17 years old, and about 100 pounds heavier.
At the risk of it being bad taste, PLEASE can I make the obvious joke here....
Ok, joke over.
Having read both of your posts, and finding them most illuminating, I'm not sure how best to offer my sympathy. As usual, Revelation covered the bases far better than I could myself. Clearly you were badly treated in both cases, although when it comes to school, many of us can also cite instances where teachers have clearly dropped the ball. I found that out to myself at a very young age, and it was a profound shock to me that being in the right was no guarantee that you would get justice. I too suffered punishment when in fact I was the victim. I hasten to add that the circumstances were quite trivial compared to yours, but especially these days school is rarely the safe environment it pretends to be.
Porn is another (very) grey area.
I have a copy of a very old magazine featuring a young lady, in all her glory, who when she eventually reached the age of 18, made the whole event public whilst laughing her socks off. When the US President of the day demanded that something be done about the publishers who failed to check her age, it turned out she had hoodwinked them by supplying a California Drivers Licence as proof of age. So it was the state of California who had facilitated naked pictures of a 15 year old girl. FWIW I don't believe she was coerced; she knew exactly what she was doing.
Meanwhile, I now find myself in possession of an illegal magazine - child pornography in fact.
More recently, on a Greek island popular as a tourist destination, I wandered around a standard village supermarket, and between the halloumi cabinet, and the bottles of Retsina, I found a stack of DVDs on a low shelf, accessible to small children. They were ridiculously cheap - typically €3 or similar, and at first glance I thought they were Disney cartoons for young children to purchase with their pocket money. Amongst them I found several that seemed to be animal documentaries. I selected one of them (Alice besucht einen Bauernhof/Alice visits a farm) and without any facility to view it either at the shop, or back at my hotel room, packed it in my luggage to watch with my children back in the UK.
Some of you are probably ahead of me on this already; whilst the DVD cover showed a respectable young lady (Alice) stroking a horse, it turned out that in the video itself Alice, now stark naked, was stroking
a horse. Thankfully my children were not in the room when I made this discovery. Assuming that this DVD was perfectly acceptable and legal in Greece (which frankly is shocking), I could have legally watched this DVD (on holiday, in Greece) but as soon as I brought it back to the UK, I put myself seriously at risk of a prison sentence.
Once again I have accidentally found myself in possession of illegal porn.
There are two things that happen when you get old.
1. You start to lose your memory.
2. What was I saying again?